Technology has developed a variety of harvesting tools, from board boards to to-do lists, from religious pages to descriptions. However, instead of giving users a sense of accomplishment, they often make us feel frustrated, reminding us of what we have left to do. They all seem to lack an essential component that can help us be content and encouraged to do more: a list of “what you have done”.
Even before the epidemic, as a family researcher and life educator, I have seen how skilled professionals can feel that they are left behind even though they are working hard. At first, I thought he needed to make some priorities. It soon became clear that she was facing a lot of distractions in the office and at home. Instead, when they become more reliable and careful, they are often asked to help someone else, especially in the event of an emergency. This sudden disruption disrupted my clients’ minds, leaving them saying “I haven’t done anything!” it’s a feeling of exhaustion.
I knew they were not alone. My research partners Families and Work Institute, Ellen Galinsky and Ipshita Pal, and we reviewed information from the Society of Human Resource Management’s 2016 National Study of the Changing Workforce. These a survey representing all U.S. workers showed that 57% reported being interrupted frequently or several times a week, leading to their termination of employment.
It was no surprise that the digital tools they relied on did not appeal to them. The list of activities they do has not changed, reminiscent of what they are he did not do. Many of their programs kept the tasks they completed or made them less-obscure what they were able to do. Most importantly, that online calendars, lists, and boards do not record unplanned fires that have been extinguished, such as last-minute repairs on customer interviews or driving by car mechanics. Their heroes were never welcomed.
Learning from their experiences, I developed a simple way to add digital tools that didn’t help them. The “what you have done” list is a list of achievements. I sat down next to my to-do list, “I asked my clients to write down some of the extras they did, big or small. This alone is not uncommon – people I have written about Lists of “completion” for years—but for my clients it provided good results.
Why ‘Experiences’ Can Help
Even a slight disturbance can affect a person’s mood. In his book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Use It, Ethan Kross, professor and principal of Infatuation with the Self-Control Lab at the University of Michigan, wrote, “Your happiness depends not only on what you have done but also on what you think.”
In a recent telephone conversation, he added: “Focusing on what you haven’t done can lead to chattering,” or developing negative thoughts and attitudes. In contrast, a list of activities can help you to “increase your awareness.”
“If you can go back and see what you have done, it is understandable that you will not be busy and feel that you have not achieved what you set out to do. It is understandable that you will be fine, ”he said.
In addition, our to-do list continued to help me and my clients during the Covid-19 crisis because it gives us “guidance.” Kross explained: “Writing a list can help restore energy to things that need to be kept quiet, as a way to prepare and give you information that is what you can do.”